Kassarie & Kayliray

I’m not an expert on breastfeeding by any means, but I have nursed two babies and feel like I have a good handle on things these days. I made it to 13 months with my daughter and we’re headed toward month three with my son.

Throughout that time I have googled, Pinterested, asked friends and family and by any means possible sought out as much information as possible on breastfeeding… The correct positions, the best way to get a good latch, help for pain in the early weeks, etc. So I wanted to share a few real life conclusions that I’ve come to for those other mamas trolling the internet for answers in the middle of a nightly nursing session.

Breastfeeding Information

The initial pain and discomfort of breastfeeding that sweet baby will pass by about 6ish weeks.

I remember searching for how long it would last those first few weeks when I was aching, engorged and just not very excited each time one of my kiddos as a newborn was ready to eat. I don’t remember ever finding a real answer. So here’s my answer to you… It might be sooner if you master the latch from the beginning, don’t have any issues with cracked nipples and things just go smoothly from the start. BUT if goodness forbid something doesn’t go right, IT WILL STILL PASS! With my son, just a couple short months ago, I caught the flu the second week after he was born. It was death. For real. But the worst thing that came from it was that I didn’t feel good, I got lazy and ended up with a cracked nipple. Like a Grand Canyon sized hole in my body you guys. It was bad. But it did eventually heal. I had to grit my teeth every time he latched there for awhile, but by 6 weeks I was totally OK.

Breastfeeding in public is uncomfortable.

Before you go all #normalizebreastfeeding on me hear me out. I know there’s this huge movement towards making mamas more comfortable to feed their children in any setting. Women are sharing photos of themselves nursing their little loves on social media. And that is awesome! BUT as a new mom, when you venture out of the house for the first time and have to figure out how to comfortably nourish your little one with prying eyes every which direction IT IS UNCOMFORTABLE. I just want you to know that it is OK to feel that way. If you don’t you are a total nursing rock star mom and kudos to you, but for the rest of us, just know that you will figure it out and it will get easier. Nursing in public with my second child was SO much easier, SO much more natural and SO much more comfortable than with my daughter when I was figuring it out the first time.

Breastfeeding

Formula is totally OK too!

I have to say that of all the things that I’ve learned throughout two kids thus far, the most important is that motherhood should be a judgment free zone. As long as you love and do your best to take care of your littles, then you are a hero mom in my eyes. Because honestly, I have known a few mamas that just don’t care. So however you feed your child, as long as they’re getting fed, continue to grow and thrive, then yay you!!! Case in point, my daughter’s little bestie is a cute little blonde headed girl that looks just like my daughter. In fact people get them mixed up sometimes. They are both smart, sweet, amazing little girls. My daughter was breastfed and her little friend was not. It all works itself out in the end, so do yourself a favor and realize that however you choose to care for your child, it is the right decision as long as you care.

What is/was your biggest breastfeeding concern? Any tips you can share for new nursing mamas?

Kassi

13 responses to “3 Thoughts on Breastfeeding from a Mama of Two”

  1. I like reading about parenting even though I am not a mom yet because it’s reassuring. Thanks for these helpful tips!

    • Kassi says:

      It’s always good to be prepared! This way you’re familiar with what’s to come! Thanks for visiting Marette!

  2. You have given me a lot of insight into the subject of nursing. Your opinion is different from what we always hear, so I enjoyed having a new view.

    • Kassi says:

      Thanks Carol, I’m taking that as a compliment. I can only share my experience, but I hope it helps others that feel like their opinions aren’t the norm.

  3. Criz says:

    I couldn’t imagine myself breastfeeding too in public, even though in my home country it isn’t a big deal. Lovely advices in here!

    • Kassi says:

      I still use a blanket to cover up… Like I said, the trend is toward getting mamas more comfortable, but I’m just not there yet… Thanks for the comment Criz!

  4. Lee says:

    I don’t have children but I think breast feeding is a great way to go. Most of my friend’s have breast fed at least at the beginning. I do wish our culture made breast feeding in public more comfortable for new moms.

    • Kassi says:

      Definitely! It’s getting better for sure, but it’s not entirely mainstream yet! Thanks for the visit today Lee!

  5. I loved this post! I agree that nursing in public gets easier, although I also still personally like to cover up and try to be discreet about it.
    With my first I got mastitis and THAT was horrible… ugh. I would never wish that an anyone. But like you said, it passed!

    • Kassi says:

      Thank you Justine!! I totally agree… I still cover up too and find a quiet spot away from the crowd if I can. I’m just more comfortable that way.
      Ugh mastitis… I haven’t gotten it myself but know people that have and it sounds like the devil!

  6. Jen Russum says:

    Yes. It is so hard and awkward to nurse in public, especially with the first… even if it is your “right” or whatever! :)

  7. Dawn says:

    I hope it gets easier the second time around. I really wish I knew how hard it would be the first time around.

  8. DANI CC says:

    Thanks for sharing your insight on the topic. We have no kids but when we get there, we will keep this post in mind.